Learn how to boost your sex life...
The word foreplay does women a huge disservice by implying that what comes before penetrative intercourse (‘sex’ to many people) is not the real thing.
For the female gender, it is the real deal - because without it, she's unlikely to orgasm. We describe some great foreplay ideas.
About 30% of guys feel they orgasm too quickly during sex with their partners, according to research.
How men learn to orgasm as boys typically contributes to the speed at which ejaculation occurs - but happily, this learnt behaviour can be reversed. Try these techniques.
If you’re secretly bored by the thought of sex with your lover tonight, especially penetrative intercourse, try a sex act that teenagers tend to be more familiar with than adults. Dry humping is the act of rubbing your body against your partner's as if having sex. So what's the allure?
How to please a woman orally
Most women love receiving oral sex. The reason that it’s so popular is that women need direct stimulation of the clitoris - whether by a tongue, finger or another object - to orgasm, rather than penetrative sex. Read all the ins and outs about giving a woman great oral sex.
How to give him great oral sex
Oral sex – aka fellatio, a blowjob or going down on him – is highly popular with guys as it feels great. Yet for many, performing fellatio on a partner for the first time can be daunting because it’s not something that is commonly taught or talked about. Learn what to do and how to do a great job, in a step-by-step process.
The art of a seductive striptease
A sexy striptease rates high up there on most men’s wish list as it is a huge turn on, but this is the one area of seduction that women are reluctant to offer. Yet women should feel powerful and beautiful in stripping for their partners. Here's how to spoil him with something he's always dreamed of seeing you do...
Are you ashamed of your genitalia?
Many women are unnecessarily embarrassed about their genitalia because they don’t look like the images they see of other women’s genitals, or because they think theirs look ugly in comparison. This insecurity naturally affects a woman’s sexual self-esteem. Yet as we explain here, we are all unique and there’s absolutely no need to be insecure about our genitals.
Masturbation: how and why women should learn to masturbate
Many women expect their first lover to teach them how to orgasm, without having a clue as to what this entails.
Take the initiative and work out what makes your body bits sizzle in sex. To become an expert in the boudoir, you don’t have to know everything – you just have to know how to find out.
It starts with a bit of self knowledge from masturbation...
How to ask for the sex you want
How much better would our sex lives be if we felt empowered to communicate openly and honestly with our partners about what we want in lovemaking? Imagine playfully guiding your partner in fulfilling your deepest fantasies! And wouldn’t it be equally fantastic if our partners felt it was okay to ask us for what they fantasize about? Here's how.
Sex toys - what they are and how to use them
What they are and how to use them. Vibrators are fantastic little gadgets for tipping you over the edge into wonderful orgasms. Until you've tried one, you simply won't understand what the fuss is about. If you've ever wondered why people love vibrators, dildos, harnesses, penis rings, Chinese balls, butt plugs, anal beads, masturbation sleeves and nipple clamps, here's why.
Anal play: why is it a growing trend?
The mere thought of anal play gives many people cold shivers. Why would anyone want to play where their faeces comes out? Isn’t it dirty? And doesn’t it hurt? Despite such reservations, anal sex is gaining in popularity. A 2002 survey in the US showed that 40% of men and 35% of women had tried anal sex with an opposite sex partner. This article looks at why it is a growing trend plus why men and women love anal play, what to do in anal play and great toys.
Female orgasm: the clitoris, the G-spot and female ejaculation
Does the G-spot exist?
This is one of the most common questions we get asked by women. Many lament that they haven’t found this magic ‘button’ to ecstasy, but there are countless women who report experiencing a deeper, whole body orgasm from stimulating an especially sensitive area inside their vagina. Some even ejaculate a clear fluid from massaging the G-spot. Read about the ins and outs of orgasms.
The definitive guide to the G-spot
The reason that many women battle to find this supposed door to nirvana is that the urethral sponge of G-spot is not actually inside the vagina but lies outside, close to the wall of the vagina, and can be felt through rather than inside it. How to locate your G-spot and what to do with it...
The definitive guide to the clitoris
Stimulation of the clitoris and surrounding tissue has got to be the singularly most important activity for bringing a woman to orgasm. The key is to stimulate her clitoris with a finger, vibrator or your mouth. Without this, a woman is unlikely to orgasm. Find out how to locate it and how to stimulate it.
The definitive guide to female ejaculation
From ongoing stimulation – typically of the G-spot – a minority of women ejaculate a thin, watery fluid. It might be clear or slightly milky. Unlike urine, it usually tastes slightly sweet. Why would anyone want to ejaculate and how do you go about it?
Do all women have a G-spot?
If you’ve been searching in vain for your G-spot, it may be that you don’t actually have one.
This finding comes from new research by an Italian scientist who may have found physical evidence of the existence of the G-spot, according to news reports.
Why women say their orgasms feel different
Research suggests that the variation in orgasmic sensations that women experience may have something to do with there being two different nerve pathways between the brain and the genitals. How does this work?
Intersexed babies are not uncommon - what if your child is?
A child born with genitals that are not strictly male or female is not as uncommon as we think – but a web of silence has been woven around intersexed babies. How common are intersexed people in South Africa and the world in general? What should you do if your child is born intersexed or has ambiguous genitalia?
Women are aroused by watching women having sex
Is women’s sexuality more flexible than men’s? A study has found that women watching porn were aroused by female-female and male-female sex acts. Heterosexual men were more aroused by films showing two women having sex than that of a man and woman having sex. What does this suggest about men and women’s sexual preferences?
Experiencing erection problems?
Most men experience erectile dysfunction at some stage in their lives. Impotence may be a temporary problem caused by too much alcohol, exhaustion, stress or a lack of desire. Yet when it is recurring, the underlying problem needs to be diagnosed. Possible causes and cures.
Are your sex toys safe?
Considering the intimate uses of sex
toys, it is a frightening thought that the material they are made
of might not be entirely safe – but this precise issue has
Secret to stronger orgasms
If stronger and easier orgasms appeal to you, experiment with a new kind of fitness - sexual fitness, by doing Kegel exercises.
The benefits are female ejaculation and increased vaginal lubrication, a tighter fit during sex, stronger erections, increased sexual stamina and more intense orgasms for him, multiple orgasms for her and (yes) him and lastly, but importantly, orgasms for women who have never had one.
Why lubrication is a great idea
If you think lubrication is only needed when sex is lukewarm, think again.
Lubricants are great for enhancing sex by ensuring that body parts move together smoothly.
Some lubes offer interesting flavours and hot sensations to
How to clean your sex toys
toys are a great addition to
the bedroom but because they have such an intimate purpose, they
must be stored well and cleaned thoroughly. Bacteria can flourish in warm, damp
places and if you want to enjoy optimum health, there are a number
of wise pointers to follow.
Did you know...?
Orgasms are great for menstrual cramps
Most men love early morning sex
Bald guys feel sexier
Sperm is low on calories but can carry many STDs
Women bond through sex due to oxytocin
Many women suffer a lower sex drive post children
Most women need clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm
Hands-free orgasms are possible...
The signs that a woman has just had sex
Penis facts - such as most erect penises are a similar length
Spice it up tips
Does money make you happier?
Sexy twist to condoms - try this trick
A ball trick to drive him wild
How to delay his orgasm
Multiple orgasms in men - yes they can!
Finding her G-spot
Erotic vouchers can liven up a dull routine
New use for clothes pegs
Clingwrap like you've never seen it before...
Create 'sex to try' lists
Hot wrestling technique
What men want more of...
Prostate orgasms - tease his p-spot
Sexual health tips
Why blood in semen needs attention
How hormones affect women's desire
How to reduce infections in women
Tips to boost your libido
What may cause burning during intercourse
How age affects the male libido
Asthma suffereres - tips for better sex
Lipstick and oils damage condoms
Why women need foreplay
Avoid lubricants with detergent
You are what you eat, so be considerate to your lover