15 steamy sex positions
Use variety to create excitement
Changing positions during sex allows you to feel different sensations that your usual positions may not produce. Even just a slight twist on your tried-and-trusted favourite position can have a startling new sensation for both of you. That’s why variety in sex positions is stimulating – it helps keeps things fresh and interesting.
Many women avoid the more daring sex positions because they feel a bit exposed and vulnerable. It takes some courage to throw off the duvet, turn on the lights on, and put your body in a position that gives him full view of your naked nether regions.
There are good reasons to throw off your inhibitions and just do it. Firstly, your lover has already seen you completely naked and knows your body intimately, including your genitals. Letting him see your most intimate parts exposed in all their glory is a huge turn on for him. And the more excited he is by your naked body, the better.
There’s also no reason to feel ashamed about your naked body or your sexual prowess in the bedroom. Women’s bodies are beautiful, in all their imperfect, glorious roundedness. Guys can’t resist a naked body, and women should revel in this fact. Let go of your worries about not being perfect and love your body, including the amazing pleasurable sensations you are capable of giving and receiving in sex.
So instead of choosing your usual favourite sex position next time, try out one of these:
This woman-on-top position is also rear entry, and it’s a good one for both partners.
How to do it He lies on his back with his legs together. She squats with her knees on either side of his, facing his feet, and lowers herself onto his erection. She moves up and down, supporting herself on her hands. He can stimulate her anus and perineum with his hand. Alternatively, while keeping her knees bent she can lie back on his chest so their bodies are in close contact. In this position, he can stimulate his clitoris with his hand. What’s good about it Rear entry is always good for stimulating the woman’s G-spot. He gets to relax and watch her in action; she’s in charge but he can also thrust up to meet her. Because she’s facing away from her, he has an exciting view of her buttocks, vagina and anus.
This is a great position when you’re feeling lazy.
How to do it The woman lies on her side with her knees bent and he snuggles up behind her, also on his side. His knees bend in behind hers, so that their bodies are touching along their full length. She opens her legs to let him enter her from behind, and then closes them.
What’s good about it He has great access to the erogenous zones of her neck and ears, and can talk dirty in her ear. His hands are free to explore her breasts and hips. The angle of his thrusting is great for stimulating her G-spot.
This is an exciting one for guys because it can kick off with an erotic lap dance and end in the ultimate reward.
How to do it The guy sits on a chair with a high back, keeping his legs together. If she really wants to please him, she starts with a strip-tease to music. When all clothing has been removed, she sits on his lap facing away from him and lowers herself onto his erection. She moves with a rocking action while he thrusts as well as her legs may tire a bit.
What’s good about it The angle of his erection stimulates her G-spot. His hands are free to play with her breasts and stimulate her clitoris. Her hands are also free to play with her clit. From this position, if she tires quickly you can both move easily into the doggie-style position for more active thrusting.
Guys love this style because it gives them full control of the depth and speed of thrusting. They also get a great view of the woman’s buttocks, genitals and anus. It’s also popular with women because it stimulates the front wall of the vagina, where the G-spot is located.
How to do it The woman kneels on all fours with her legs open slightly. He kneels behind her and enters her, holding on to her hips while he thrusts. She can also move with his thrusts to deepen penetration. He can easily reach around to stimulate her clitoris simultaneously – or she can do this if she can balance on one hand or elbow. A variation on this style is the standing doggy, where she stands and bends forwards, holding onto his ankles for support.
What’s good about it For her – G-spot and clitoral stimulation at the same time. For him – a sexy view of her and of his thrusting, plus total control.
For supple women, this one is interesting as it literally gives her a head rush. It also provides a novel view of the action for both partners.
How to do it The woman lies on her back on a comfortable bed. He kneels in front of her, facing her. He holds her ankles and lifts her body up until only her feet are either side of his head and she’s almost in a shoulderstand. Her head and shoulders rest on the bed, while her hips rest over his pelvis and her legs against his chest. He enters her and holds onto her thighs to keep her in place while he thrusts.
What’s good about it Because of her upside-down position, blood rushes to her head and this changes the way she experiences an orgasm. The angle provides for deep penetration, which he controls.
She needs a good sense of balance with this woman-on-top position but the effort is worth it.
How to do it The guy sits on a chair with a tall back. She sits astride him while facing him and takes him inside her. Then she raises her legs one by one and places them over his shoulders. She rests her hands on his knees to support her weight as she moves up and down on him. His hands are around her waist to help support her. If she squeezes her thighs together, this adds pressure on his penis.
What’s good about it The full frontal view for him is very erotic. He gets to relax and enjoy watching the action. The angle of penetration is great for stimulating her G-spot.
This is a classic tantric sex position from the Kama Sutra. The couple faces each other in close, sexual contact which builds emotional intimacy.
How to do it Both partners sit facing each other with crossed legs in the yoga sitting position. Once he has an erection, she moves onto his lap and lowers herself onto him, wrapping her legs around him and entwining her arms around his neck. Then she clenches and releases her vaginal muscles, moving her pelvis just enough to keep him excited and erect, but not taking him to a climax.
What’s good about it It focuses on the woman’s pleasure and it’s also great for heightening intimacy between the partners. This position is a good introduction to tantric sex. He can speed up her build up towards an orgasm by stimulating her clit either with his hand or a small vibe.
This is excellent for women because the base of his penis stimulates her clitoris directly during penetrative intercourse – making it one of the very few to offer the dual vadge/clit stimulation that women love.
How to do it She lies on her back and he lies on top of her, with both partners keeping their legs straight. He enters her and then moves as high up on her pelvis as he can, remaining inside her. Then he moves in a side-to-side movement instead of thrusting.
What’s good about it The resulting pressure on her clitoris is divine. For guys, the sensations felt by the penis are very different to what’s normally felt by thrusting.
This one adds a twist to the grind, with similar effects – the woman gets to enjoy stimulating pressure on her clitoris and labia from his pelvis.
How to do it If you’re feeling adventurous, start out in the grind or missionary positions and the guy then slowly twists around until he’s facing her feet. Or get into the position from the start: she lies on her back and he lies on top facing her feet and supporting his weight on his arms. His knees rest either side of her. He penetrates her and thrusts.
What’s good about it The pressure on her external genitals is exquisite for her, and she enjoys penetration simultaneously. If he enjoys anal play, she can stimulate him, using a good dollop of anal lubrication, while he controls the action. She can squeeze his buttocks or massage his perineum with a finger.
Ever wanted to try sex in his car or on the back porch but didn’t really know how to do it expertly?
How to do it He sits cross-legged or with legs together on the chair (the back seat might give you more room), you squat on his lap facing him and take his penis inside you. While you gaze passionately into his eyes, you can lean back slightly so that your G-spot is stimulated, and he’s got great access to your clit for some simultaneous finger massaging. Or let him drive the little vibe you keep in your handbag.
Variation If you have more space, try the same position but face away from him to give him an awesome view and for better G-spot massaging.
This sex position is praised in the Kama Sutra, the ancient erotic text on the art of lovemaking, because you give him a very sexy view of your genitals before he enters you. Another reason why it’s very sexy for him is because the more you open your legs, the deeper he can penetrate. Because the vulva are raised and tilted, this position feels great for both of you.
How to do it Sit on the bed in front of him. Put your legs up on his shoulders and hold on to his thighs. Then lie back and keeping your legs straight, stretch them over your body and towards your head. Tilt your hips up, so that they are off the bed. He kneels in front of you and penetrates from above. His body rests along the length of your legs, with your feet either side of his face. Hold on to his thighs for support while he rocks backwards and forwards, as thrusting is impossible. If you enjoy a bit of clitoral stimulation during penetration (and who doesn’t?), open your legs a bit wider and using one hand, hold a vibrator against your clit. This position is also great for him as the wider your legs, the deeper he can penetrate.
You may think doggie-style sex is a bit, um, beneath you as it’s undignified – but that’s if you’ve never tried it. The reason it’s great for women is that it’s one of the best positions for his thrusting to stimulate our G-spot…and that’s definitely way up there on the list of things to do today! It’s great for him because it allows for deep penetration and he gets a great view of your great bits.
How to do it Stand in front of him with your back to him, then bend over the back of the couch or kitchen table until your body creates a 90 degree angle to your legs. He penetrates from behind. A big bonus – while he’s thrusting, he can play with your clit with his fingers or vibrator and massage your G-spot with his penis until you orgasm too.
This is great for getting the action out of the bedroom and into another space as you need a chair with a back. The position is erotic for him because it gives him a good view of your genitals and you also do most of the work. Almost like a lap dance, he can only sit back and watch you in action. It’s also highly stimulating for him as it creates a lot of friction for his penis.
How to do it Your guy sits on a chair and leans back, while you sit on his lap. Put your feet over his shoulders one at a time, then place your hands on his thighs. Lower yourself onto his erection. He places his hands around your waist and helps you as you lift yourself up and do down again. Squeeze your thighs together to increase the pressure on his penis.
For you Attach a hands-free vibe for clitoral or G-spot stimulation as this position doesn’t make simultaneous oral sex or manual stimulation easy to bring you to orgasm.
It’s called this because you’re both giving each other oral sex while facing each other’s feet, like a six snuggling up to a nine. The best part is you’re getting some hot action on your clitoris and vulva – but you’re not leaving him out. The hotter he gets in working you to a frenzy, the more you can thank him in return with some expert attention. The only drawback is that it’s not always easy focusing giving pleasure when you’re at the height of your pleasure! But practise makes perfect…
How to do it He lies on his back and you crouch over his face, facing his feet. Place your knees either side of his face and lower your body until his warm tongue makes contact with your vulva (genital lips). You can also give him a little finger-attached vibe to explore you with. Then resting on your elbows, lower yourself to his penis and start licking, sucking and pleasing. Continue till you both shudder with pleasure, or until you have and if he hasn’t yet, you can move on to penetration for a rousing finale.
Sources of information:
Superhotsex – Tracey Cox
Ann Summers' Little Book of Kama Sutra – Siobhan Kelly
The Ann Summers Wild Guide to Sex and Loving – Siobhan Kelly
Sex Play – Anne Hooper
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