Why do women enjoy anal play?
Some women orgasm from anal sex
For many women, penetration of the anus is just as pleasurable as penetration of the vagina. The anal canal lies alongside the vaginal canal and they are interconnected sexually. The anal sphincters, the rings of muscle that open to allow entry to the anal canal, form part of the genital network of clitoral and G-spot tissue.
Anal penetration alone can bring some woman to orgasm from G-spot and perineum stimulation. This is because the G-spot (or urethral sponge) can be stimulated through the walls of the rectum. G-spot orgasms are reportedly deeper than clitoral orgasms. With simultaneous stimulation of the anus during oral sex or vaginal intercourse (even better – include clitoral stimulation), women often report a feeling of fullness and increased sensitivity leading to a more explosive, deeper orgasm than through vaginal play alone.
Female genital anatomy [click here to enlarge]
Did you know the anus contracts during orgasm?
What many don’t realize is that the anus contracts during orgasm and forms an integral part of the orgasmic experience. When you are sexually aroused, the anus becomes engorged with blood, as does the entire genital area. The muscles become tense and finally, contract explosively as the blood is forced with orgasm to rush away from the genital area.
Why the anus is an erogenous zone
The anus is an erogenous zone for both men and women because the anal cavity is rich in sensitive nerve endings. When the surrounding muscles are contracted, this produces a rush of sex hormones. When stimulated, the anus is capable of communicating exquisite pleasure.
But it needs to be approached respectfully and gently. Those willing to be adventurous are often pleasantly surprised at how enjoyable anal play can be and how it can take both partners, whether male or female, to a new realm of sexual experience.
Many people of both sexes enjoy the sensation of a finger in the anus during penetrative sex, or the anus contracting around a butt plug or dildo, or contracting and releasing as a plug with a series of ridges is inserted and then pulled out just before orgasm to intensify the sensation.
Why do people have reservations about anal sex?
Most people who enjoy anal play at one stage had reservations, which they set aside in a willingness to explore. Let’s deal with the most common reservations first:
Q Isn’t the anal cavity ‘dirty’?
A This cavity is a passage and not a storage facility. It cleans itself and is likely to be clear, unless the person has recently had a bowel movement. The most you are likely to encounter is a slight trace of faeces – but using protection like a condom or glove will eliminate any actual contact with this. Also, the more recently the bowels have been emptied, the lower the likelihood of an unpleasant ‘surprise’ popping out during anal play.
Q Isn’t anal sex painful?
A Yes, if not approached correctly. Given the right circumstances – slow, gentle, well lubricated penetration – it can be highly pleasurable for both of you. You must have the right partner, a good attitude and a good lube. There is also a right way to start – with plenty of foreplay and a small object like a pinky finger. The first rule of anal play is that if it causes pain, stop.
Q As a man, won’t my female partner worry that I’m gay if I ask for anal play?
A Not if she understands that your prostate, the equivalent of her G-spot, is best stimulated through the walls of the rectum and can lead to a particularly deep, whole-body orgasm.
What you need to know about the anus
Isn't anal sex messy?
Tips to pleasure her
Can she orgasm from anal sex?
What are good positions for anal sex?
What not to do in anal sex
A note about infections
What to do in anal play
- Solo anal play
- Anal play for couples
What toys are great for anal play?
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“The last lovemaking taboo lifted?” – Brian Alexander at www.msnbc.msn.com/id/17285757
302 Advanced techniques for driving a man wild in bed – Olivia St. Claire
superhotsex – Tracey Cox
The Big Bang: nerve’s guide to the new sexual universe – the writers at nerve
The Good Vibrations Guide to Sex – Cathy Winks and Anne Semans
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