The female orgasm: how to have one

The clitoris, the G-spot and female ejaculation

Does the G-spot exist?
This is one of the most common questions we get asked by women. Many lament that they haven’t found this magic ‘button’ to ecstasy, but there are countless women who report experiencing a deeper, whole body orgasm from stimulating an especially sensitive area inside their vagina. Some even ejaculate a clear fluid from massaging the G-spot.
There are a number of theories as to why women say they experience different types of orgasms. Yet whether or not a woman can orgasm purely from the stimulation of a particular spot in her vagina is hotly debated. Many sex therapists believe that all female orgasms are generated by stimulation of the clitoris, for instance.
They argue that women who are able to orgasm from penetration alone may have larger clitorises positioned high enough in the vagina to be stimulated by the thrust of the penis. Alternatively, they argue that in certain positions the thrusting penis pulls on the labia and this stimulates the clitoris.
While the debate still rages, research shows that a walnut-sized area about 2 inches inside the vagina on the front wall (belly button side) just after the curve of the pubic bone is a particularly sensitive one in most women. Most appear to find it pleasurable, yet not all women actually orgasm from stimulation of this spot, while some even appear to find it irritating or unpleasant. In this article we’ll explain how to locate and stimulate the G-spot, how to stimulate the clitoris, and describe what female ejaculation is. We also look at why orgasms may feel different, what happens when a woman orgasms and how to trigger one.

Female genital anatomy [click here to enlarge]

Why women enjoy different types of orgasms
Women tend to identify different types of orgasms depending on the stimulation involved and the sensation that results. A vaginal or G-spot orgasm is often described as different to a clitoral orgasm in that it feels deeper and more of a ‘whole body’ experience.
One of the reasons why orgasms feel different probably lies with a woman’s physiology. Research suggests that the variation in orgasmic sensations that women experience may have something to do with there being two different nerve pathways between the brain and the genitals. Clitoral orgasms may be linked to nerve signals travelling down one nerve pathway linking the clitoris to the PC (or pubococcygeus) muscle. G-spot orgasms may involve nerve signals heading down the pelvic nerve, which links to organs such as the uterus and bladder and deeper parts of the PC muscle. The G-spot orgasm may therefore be felt as a ‘deeper’ orgasm because the nerve is connected to inner muscles and internal organs. For more details, click here.
This may explain why women report that engaging in different types of stimulation simultaneously – for instance, clitoral and vaginal stimulation – helps them experience a range of sensations in orgasm. This may cause nerve signals to travel on both nerve pathways between the brain and the genitals simultaneously.
Orgasms vary greatly from person to person in terms of intensity, length and number of contractions. They also vary from orgasm to orgasm, depending on a woman’s mood, stress level, diet, self-esteem, age, sense of exhaustion, relationship with her partner, presence of children, how long since her last orgasm, and an infinite number of other variables.

How do women orgasm?
Sexual arousal in women is complex, perhaps more so than for men. While men tend to climax easily, women often need more time and effort to orgasm – but when they do, their orgasms are harder, longer and often multiple.
It is said that women need on average about 20 minutes of foreplay to become sufficiently aroused – and sufficiently lubricated – for penetrative intercourse. Most women don’t orgasm from penetration alone, however: research has found that about 70-80% of women need direct stimulation of the clitoris during intercourse to climax. The reason is that penetrative intercourse usually doesn’t provide the right kind of stimulation to lead to climax, except for certain positions that are more likely to stimulate the clitoris simultaneously.
Women are able to orgasm from a greater range of stimuli than men – mostly from stimulating the clitoris and G-spot, but some can also climax from nipple play, from clenching their pelvic muscles and even from intense fantasies.

When do most women have their first orgasm?
The majority of women do not learn to orgasm until quite some time after they have become sexually active, according to research. A survey in the 90s (for The Big ‘O’) showed that the majority of women climaxed for the first time while masturbating (47%), a smaller percentage through intercourse (32%), 20% through petting and an amazing 1% while asleep. Other research shows that an estimated 2% of women can orgasm through fantasy alone (Go Ask Alice!).

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The OhZone definitive guide to the G-spot
How to find the G-spot / The G-spot is not in the vagina / How to stimulate the G-spot / The best G-spot positions / How to have a G-spot orgasm
The OhZone definitive guide to the clitoris
How to find the clitoris / How to stimulate the clitoris
The OhZone definitive guide to female ejaculation
What is female ejaculation? / Do all women ejaculate? / How to ejaculate

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Sources of information:
Go Ask Alice! – Alice!, Health Promotion Program, Columbia University
Supersex – Tracey Cox
The Big Bang: Nerve’s Guide to the New Sexual Universe – the writers at Nerve
The Good Vibrations Guide to Sex - Cathy Winks and Anne Semans
How to help your female partner have orgasms and Are you having trouble reaching orgasm? A guide for women - David Delvin and Christine Webber (authors of The Big ‘O’) in netdoctor
The sex inspectors masterclass – Tracey Cox and Michael Alvear
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