Kiss and nibble all over her body as you ease your way downwards. Return to kiss her on the mouth frequently, and use your hands to touch and tease her all over. Lingering skin to skin contact, without making direct contact with the crucial bits, is an incredibly sexy way to tease. If she knows where you are going, build anticipation by making her wait. The longer she waits, the more aroused she’s likely to be and the more explosive her response when you do finally get there.
…and teasingly…
Instead of taking all her clothes off right at the start, undress her slowly and teasingly, especially when it comes to her panties. Try warm, panting breaths and licking the fabric of her panties, then gently slipping them to one side until she’s so desperate she begs you to rip them off.
Popular positions for oral
Although the positions you can adopt are limitless, some popular ones include her lying on her back and her partner lying between her legs, facing her vagina (this position allows the partner to touch and stroke her body simultaneously); the partner kneeling on the floor between her legs while she stands or lies back; her straddling the face of her partner, who lies back (this lets her control the intensity of the stimulation). You could try placing a pillow or two under her backside to allow different angles of exploration. Or she could stand with her legs apart, while her partner stimulates her from beneath.
And now for some tongue action
Mostly, women like the external area stimulated with a tongue and well lubricated fingers. Start by licking all over – her navel, hips and inner thighs. Lick teasingly, moving gradually to her genitals. Then lick the whole vulva, from the perineum to the pubic bone, and especially around the sensitive urethra. Use the hard tip of your tongue, as well as a flat, relaxed tongue.
Run your tongue between the inner and outer vaginal lips (labia). Wet the whole area thoroughly with your saliva as you kiss, suck and lick all around her lips – just like with fellatio, lots of lube is terrific. If she’s dry and you rub, the friction can be highly irritating and unpleasant.
Use your fingers to part her labia and locate her clitoris (the little nub at the top near her pubic bone, peeping out from under a hood of skin). Touch it gently with the tip of your tongue. Then gently move it side to side with your tongue.
Lick around the clitoris in a circular motion, and try lapping up and down all around it. Vary between slow and gentle licking and firm, fast licking. Also try nuzzling her clitoris gently with your nose or chin (the hardness can be particularly arousing).
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By experimenting, work out what stimulation of the clitoris she enjoys and settle into a steady rhythm. While you’re busy, don’t ignore the rest of her body. Use your hands to rub and massage all over.
Watch for any feedback to find out if she’s enjoying the sensations. If you notice her clitoris retracting under the hood, you need to be more gentle. Generally, a woman’s skin is softer and a lot more sensitive to touch than a man’s. This means that guys should touch a woman half as hard as they think they should – unless she says otherwise!
Variety is great, so pretend you’re writing words with your tongue over her clitoris. This varies your tongue action and avoids overstimulation of one part of the clit. If you can’t find the spot that makes her really excited, ask her to show you with her fingers where she’d like you to be concentrating on.
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