Hot tips to spice up your sex life

How to use temperature in oral sex
		Hot and cold sensations on the genitals can be absolutely delicious. Pop a small ice cube into your mouth and run your tongue up and down his penis. Or hold it against her clitoris and alternate with a warm tongue. Swallow a hot liquid and then take your lover's penis or clitoris in your mouth. Blow from close up for a hot sensation, or fan them or blow from about 20cm away for a cooling sensation. Good Vibrations Guide to Sex - Cathy Winks + Anne Semans

Bum massaging If you're wanting to know how to give your lover a sexy bum massage, try this technique: your lover lies on their stomach with you sitting at their feet. Put a hand on each bum cheek and then slide them up and down in opposite directions. Try different strokes like kneading the cheeks or dragging your fingers across them. Light slaps can also feel good. The Good Vibrations Guide to Sex - Cathy Winks and Anne Semans

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Nibble and bite him Guys love being bitten by a woman in foreplay because it's a sexually aggressive approach that is both erotic and exciting. Hold his penis While you're stroking him everywhere else, hold his penis still in your hand to desensitise it. This will help him last longer in the session. Delay penetration for as long as possible for a more explosive end result. Ann Summers Wild Guide to Sex and Loving - Siobhan Kelly

Photo: Dunikowski / flickr		Hot and cold surprise Use a warmed towel and cube of ice to tantalise him: place each on his chest in turn and hold it there for about 10 seconds, until he can't take it any longer. Then repeat this process, moving slowly down his chest until you reach his penis. The anticipation should have him squirming...
A tease to thrill Use your erect penis to tease her to distraction. Part her legs but instead of entering her vagina, use your penis to trace the outline of her vulva and to lightly tickle her clitoris. Keep this up for a few minutes and she'll be begging you to pop inside her. The Ann Summers Wild Guide to Sex and Loving - Siobhan Kelly

Shower surprise When he's in the shower, pop a satin slip or silky camisole on and surprise him in the water. The wet, clingy fabric will look and feel fabulously sexy. Wicked lunch Gift wrap a pair of your panties and pop them in his lunch box with a note promising him a wild time when he gets home. 302 Advanced Techniques for Driving a Man Wild in Bed - Olivia St. Claire

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Sexy tin foil, minty flavours Wrap his testicles in tin foil, then pop your lips on them and hum. The foil adds heat, a crackle to your oral vibration, and intensity to the sensation. Pop some minty toothpaste, menthol cough drops or a mint creme liquer in your mouth and draw his penis into your mouth. Lick all over, then blow warm air onto his cooled skin...watch him shudder!

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How to rev his prostate motor The prostate gland, which can be felt through the front wall of a man's rectum, is incredibly sensitive to pressure and is known as the male equivalent of the female G-spot. Some men enjoy stimulation of the prostate gland via the anus with a finger, tongue or sex toy. Others who don't like anal action may prefer having it massaged through their perineum, which is the ridge-like area between the anus and testicles. Ann Summers little book of kama sutra

How do I bind thee? For a deliciously wicked session, tie him up and tease him. Being bound is one of the most common requests call girls get from male clients as many men get a thrill from relinquishing the power and responsibility expected at work. Their helplessness heightens the erotic tension. They can't escape from the powerful sensations you subject them to, which increases the body's pleasure receptors. 302 advanced techniques for driving a man wild in bed: Olivia St. Claire

Need lube for a late night rubdown?
Need some lube for a quick hand job for him but the shops are closed? Try saliva (alcohol dries saliva, so keep water nearby), hair gel (alcohol free), Vaseline or hand cream (the cheaper the better as expensive creams are absorbed more easily), baby oil, hair conditioner (wash off afterwards) or olive/vegetable/coconut/peanut oil. Avoid these products on her as the sensitive vagina is far more infection-prone. Don’t use any oil-containing products if you are then going to use condoms as oil breaks down latex.
The big bang: nerve’s guide to the new sexual universe – the writers at nerve

Massaging her genital area heightens orgasm
Massage her genital area when she is close to orgasm and you will be stimulating the clitoris at a deeper level than merely the tip. Most of the clitoris is hidden – under the skin is the 2 to 4cm-long clitoral shaft or body. This splits into two legs running on either side of the vaginal opening, under the labia, for about three inches. The entire clitoris – the glans, the clitoral shaft and the legs – fills with blood during arousal and becomes firmer. This is why the clitoris is also stimulated indirectly when the vagina, urethra or anus are stimulated.

How to 'milk' your man to ecstasy
‘Milking’ is an ancient art that involves a woman squeezing her pubococcygeus or PC muscle (see female genital anatomy diagram) in a rolling motion to ‘milk’ her man’s penis. To learn how to do this, practise contracting your PC muscle 25-50 times a day (see our article on Kegel exercises) to tone it and develop a gripping power worthy of a boa constrictor. With ongoing practice, you can learn to isolate the outer, middle and inner bands of the muscle and squeeze them one by one, starting with the outer muscle group closest to the entrance to the vagina, then the middle muscle band, and finally the band closest to the anus, in a continuous rolling motion. Then enjoy the effect your trick has on him!
302 advanced techniques for driving a man wild in bed - Olivia St. Claire

Does money make you happier?
Not according to recent studies. Better and more frequent sex with your partner is what makes people happier, rather than wealth.
superhotsex - Tracey Cox

Sex tip for him
Wrap a rubber penis ring around the base of your penis when erect to promote a bigger, longer-lasting erection and to give you a deliciously restricted feeling. Rings give extra pleasure when they have knobs on them to stimulate your penile pressure points as well as your female partner's outer genitals during intercourse.
302 Advanced techniques for driving a man wild in bed - Olivia St. Claire
More on how to use penis rings

Sex tip for her
For stronger orgasms, start exercising your PC muscle on a regular basis (take a look at our article on Kegel exercises to find out how to go about this - the sexual benefits for both men and women are enormous). Then when you are close to an orgasm, squeeze your PC muscle and feel the orgasm shoot deeper than usual.
The Good Vibrations Guide to Sex – Cathy Winks and Anne Semans

Re-hardening him for the next session
The sure-fire way to get most men ready for a second sex session is oral sex. A nice touch is to wash him down with a warm cloth between sessions. Some men's penises are too sensitive after having sex and they prefer stimulation of other parts of their body, such as their nipples or caressing their entire body. Watching you pleasure yourself is a quick way to excite him once more. Another great trick for a woman is to squeeze her PC muscles (see female genital anatomy diagram) to hold the tip of his penis inside her, while on top of him, and use her hand to slide the skin up and down his penile shaft until signs of new life appear. Bear in mind that the length of time a man needs to gather his strength again after orgasming varies greatly from person to person.
302 Advanced Techniques for Driving a Man Wild in Bed - Olivia St Claire

Sexy twist to condoms
Don't like using condoms? Try the ribbed variety - with a twist. While the ribs were designed to pleasure the receiver, if you turn the condom inside out so that the grooves are on the inside, they create a stimulating sensation for the penis. Add a dollop of thick lubricant into the tip of the condom and pop it on; the lube will heat up with movement and friction, and will gradually spread down the shaft of the penis for an exciting effect.
The Ann Summers Wild Guide to Sex and Loving – Siobhan Kelly

Delaying his orgasm
When a man approaches orgasm, his testicles move up towards his body - gently tugging them down back again can help delay orgasm.
The Sex Inspectors Masterclass - Tracey Cox & Mchael Alvear

Multiple orgasms in men
Men tend to experience multiple orgasms less frequently than women because after ejaculation most experience a 'refractory period' in which they are unable to achieve another erection. However, it is possible for men to have multiple orgasms by learning to orgasm without ejaculating, bypassing the refractory period. A Taoist tip to achieve this is to press the perineum with a finger when close to ejaculating, cutting off the flow of seminal fluid without halting progression to orgasm.
The Good Vibrations Guide to Sex - Cathy Winks and Anne Semans

Use your PC muscle to tease his love muscle
Here's a sexy technique that women can use to vary sensation for him during lovemaking. When his penis is inside, clench your PC muscle tightly around him and hold for three heartbeats. Then quickly clench a bit tighter and let go. Wait three heartbeats and repeat. After a few rounds, increase your pace by counting only two heartbeats, then one, and then clench and release quickly on each heartbeat until he begs for mercy. If it sounds difficult, try doing Kegel exercises during the day to get your PC muscle well toned. A great side effect - your orgasms are also bound to get more intense.
302 advanced techniques for driving a man wild in bed - Olivia St. Claire

Finding her G-spot
Research shows that most women don't climax through intercourse alone - direct clitoral stimulation is needed. However, if you really want her to orgasm during intercourse, you need to stimulate the G-spot, a cushion of tissue that is felt through the front vaginal wall. The best positions for hitting this spot in intercourse are woman on top, rear-entry or missionary with a pillow under her buttocks. Curved vibrators are also handy for reaching the spot it. The G-spot responds to firm stimulation and it may take patience to reach orgasm.

Erotic vouchers
Give your partner a gift with a twist - make a voucher promising them an erotic favour such as a specific sex act (go into great detail), let them choose where or when to have sex for the next week, or act out their favourite fantasy. The thrill is in offering something new and using unpredictability to break up your routine.

New use for clothes pegs
Another use for clothes pegs: tie your lover up (best to ask permission first!) and when aroused, test a clothes peg - or nipple clip - on the skin between your fingers to see how tight the clamp is. If not too tight, test it out on your partner's nipples, belly button, balls or ear lobes. Leave on for not more than 5 minutes while you lick, nibble and stroke all over. Take the clamp off gently as the rush of blood may hurt more than the clamping.

Clingwrap like you've never seen it...
Clingwrap isn't only good for sandwiches. Wrap your naked body fairly snugly with a long roll of clingwrap - leaving your legs free to walk, of course - and then offer yourself to your partner to explore and unwrap at their leisure.

Create 'sex to try' lists
Write down five sexual things that you would like to try with your partner, and ask them to do the same. Be daring. Swap your lists and go through them with an open mind. Once you've agreed the suggestions, place them in a hat and draw one out a week, to be acted upon. Give each one your sexiest shot.
Tracey Cox and Michael Alvear - the sex inspectors masterclass

Hot wrestling
Get down and slippery with your partner. Place a waterproof sheet (eg shower curtain or taped bin liners) on your bed or floor, lubricate your naked bodies with massage oil, baby oil or olive oil; or use honey, syrup or cream for a stickier effect. Begin a two-minute wrestling round. The aim is to get your lover on their back and to slide across their body. The winner demands a sexual favour. A word of warning, though - oil breaks down latex condoms.
Sex Play - Anne Hooper

Prostate orgasms
The prostate gland is a source of pleasure for many men and it is possible to have an orgasm purely from prostate stimulation. This type of orgasm is often described as particularly deep. The prostate, which produces ejaculatory fluid, can be massaged by inserting a finger about 3 inches into his rectum and stroking the front wall - make sure he is aroused first. The gland feels like a firm bulge about the size of a walnut.
The Good Vibrations Guide to Sex - Cathy Winks and Anne Semans

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