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A sexy striptease rates high up there on most men’s wish list as it is a huge turn on, and yet this is the one area of seduction that women are reluctant to offer.  
Most guys would probably give their eye teeth for the special woman who spoils them with a slow, seductive strip, especially if it’s for his eyes only and he gets to enjoy the dessert at the end.

Why women don’t tend to do striptease
There are at least two reasons why women neglect this great seduction tool – many lack confidence in their naked bodies and many feel sexually inhibited.

Yet women should feel powerful and beautiful in stripping for their partners, and there are plenty of reasons why.

Women’s bodies are beautiful
The naked female form is beautiful and has turned men on since time immemorial, because men are programmed to be aroused by nudity. Whether or not we are in great shape, our naked beauty is highly desirable to our partners.Contrary to what most women think, a perfectly toned, perfectly curvaceous body is not essential to offering this sexy treat. It’s all about self confidence and loving your body enough to delight in watching his response to your teasing. Men are attracted by beauty; women need to discover what makes them feel beautiful and tap into this. When we love who we are we become radiant and develop sexual magnetism.

Build sexual charisma
Moreover, each of us has our own sexual charisma – a unique blend of personality, physical charms and sexual chemistry that makes us irresistible to our partner. This can’t be measured against any criteria of supposed sexual perfection, which doesn’t exist. What drives one person crazy in the bedroom will leave another cold and by the same token, what our partners have or do that hits the right note for us sexually may have no appeal whatsoever for the hottie in the office next door. Sexual chemistry can’t be defined – it’s either there or it isn’t, and if it exists for us and our partners, that’s what counts and should be enjoyed. 

He already knows your naked body
Your lover already knows your body intimately and presumably loves making love to you, so he knows what you look like. When you’re swaying your hips and threatening to remove an item of clothing, he’ll be admiring what he sees and longs for you to peel it off. The last thing he is going to be doing is looking at your body critically while you put on a hot show for him.

You may not know what turns him on
Each of us is unique in our sexual likes, loves and fetishes. He may love a part of your body that you don’t particularly like, because what turns one person on may not appeal to another. So he won’t be looking at your body in quite the way you do. And nor will he be comparing your proportions, shapes or sizes to the hottest supermodels. He’ll simply be adoring the bits of you that do turn him on...and if you didn’t turn him on, would he have fallen for you in the first place?

He will love you for it
When you treat him to his own sexy striptease, he will feel desired and special that you have chosen to do something so wonderful for him. He’s unlikely to waste the experience feeling negatively towards. He’s going to adore you for spoiling him, so put aside how silly you may at first feel and let go.

How to strip like a professional The typical striptease artist’s outfit is a fitted jacket, miniskirt, sexy push-up bra (no shirt), g-string, suspender belt, stockings and stilettos – but if you’d prefer to don a latex nurse’s outfit and thigh-high boots, he’s not likely to complain! If you feel sexy, you will ooze sex. Choose lingerie you love Wear flattering lingerie that makes you feel confident and sexy, such as a lacy push-up bra or a tantalisingly see-through one, making sure it is easy to remove. Guys love g-strings but if you feel they don’t flatter your figure, rather go for something that suits you and you feel great in.

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Show off the bits that drive him wild
If you’re self-conscious about some parts of your body, highlight the bits that you know he loves. If he is a boob man, make a special show of yours – wear revealing lingerie that draws his eyes there. If your bum is your best asset, flaunt it with a g-string. If you have long, silky locks, flick them suggestively around your shoulders and breasts.

Mimic the way he likes to touch you
Use your hands to caress and play with your body in the way that he normally likes to do this – he can’t touch as you strip, but he can watch you touching yourself suggestively, which is a huge turn on for him. 

High heels are sexy
High heels make your legs look longer and sexier, which is why they are a popular choice. It is advisable to choose slip-on stilettos with no fiddly straps so that you can slip your heels off in one easy move.

Set the mood Put the lights on low (not too low as he must still be able to see what you’re doing) and play your favourite sexy tune to dance to. Invite him to settle on the couch and pour two glasses of chilled champagne.

Make a grand entrance through the door – attitude is everything so do whatever makes you exude confidence. A sexy tip is to place one foot directly in front of the other so that your hips sway seductively.

Set the rules
While you can touch him, he is not allowed to touch any part of you. You’re in charge – he’s the passive observer who has to obey you. Maintain eye contact with him throughout your striptease, giving him a wicked ‘come hither’ look, and don’t be shy to gyrate your body sexily to the music (it helps if you choose a song that you love to move to).

Use a scarf as a naughty prop
Tease him by running a scarf suggestively all over your body – a feather boa if you’ve got one, or a silk or satin scarf. Move it from side to side over your shoulders while pushing your chest out seductively. This is also great for tying his hands up later… When you’ve finished playing with it, fling it at him and move on to the next item of clothing.

Ease your jacket off
The first part of your outfit must come off tantalisingly slowly. Turn your back to him, look at him over your shoulder, and shrug your jacket off very gradually in one graceful motion (without dropping it). Once it’s off, hold it suggestively in front of your breasts. Turn around to face him, and then let the jacket drop to the floor.  

Off with your skirt and heels
The jacket is followed by your skirt – turn your back once more, look at him over your shoulder, then unzip your skirt slowly and with your back arched and your backside sticking out, let it drop to the floor. Step out of it and leave it there. Then lift your legs up behind you and slip your heels off gracefully.

Stockings and suspenders
These are a nice touch because women don’t often wear them these days…and guys love them. Turn side-on, put one foot up on a chair and undo your suspender belt while looking him in the eye. Slowly roll each stocking down your leg, slip them over your heel and pull them off your toes. Tease him by draping them over him. Remove the suspender belt and let it slide to the floor.

Removing your bra Drag this part out as this is where things really hot up for him. While facing him, slip the straps off your shoulders, then turn your back to him while looking at him over your shoulder. Undo the bra strap and hold the bra in place, then turn to face him as you slip it off, keeping one arm over your breasts.

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Drop your bra, then slowly play with your breasts in the way that he would love to, rubbing them, neading them and tweaking the nipples. Don’t let him touch…

And the piece de résistance…your panties
This part is a delicate art as you want to look graceful. Stand side-on to him and place one leg in front of the other, with your heel off the floor. Slip your hands under the straps at your sides and slowly pull them out and away from your body. Then slide your hands down your legs and bend with the movement, arching your back and sticking your chest out. When you get to your knees, let them fall to the floor, stand up and step gracefully out of them.

Keep your distance
The idea now is to carry on dancing and strutting your naked body to tease him for as long as possible. Rub yourself wherever you please, play with your breasts and gyrate your hips…he’ll love it!

Why he’ll love you
By flashing your flesh in a slow tease, you have the power not only to arouse him to great heights but to make him feel desired and special to be on the receiving end of this erotic display. Most men would be prepared to pay a small fortune for a wicked striptease, so if you indulge him with this pleasure it’s likely to earn you huge brownie points – and earn you the status of red-hot lover.  

Sources of information:
supersex – Tracey Cox
302 Advanced Techniques for Driving a Man Wild in Bed – Olivia St. Claire

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