Sexcapades

Dancing to new heights in Sandton 'There is something extremely erotic about watching your woman dance for you with all the mischief and freedom that make striptease such a nifty art.
Photo: Krystynana / flickr		'It’s an invitation to things wildly exciting, daring and afire with the spoils of indulgence. We were at her flat in Sandton. She was tall, playful and liked to dance with healing danger when it came to matters romantic. It was spontaneous and showed her ability to seize the moment. There was a superb offering of candlelight and aroma-filled room service. To see her taking her clothes off was such a fantastic build up to what I believe could have easily passed as the erection of a monument! That night there was no reason for my restless boy down there not to breathe heavily with puppy-like excitement and readiness. And yes, she was clean shaven and almost heavenly soft and moist when her solo dance reached its logical conclusion. That night I thanked my ancestors for their upright endowment policy.' ~ Andile, Johannesburg

He practised control for a simultaneous orgasm
'I was fortunate to have a partner who was sensitive to my needs and enjoyed practising control. He’d often start with manual or oral stimulation to ease me into it and as we built momentum he’d vary the rhythm of his penetration, adjust his position of thrust and hold back while he kissed me deeply or stroked and pulled my nipples or licked my ear. As he felt my response growing and heard my panting he’d speed up his thrusting and repeat this until we both had an orgasm. Or, if he was feeling particularly generous, he’d wait till I was midway until he pushed through the final barrier to ecstasy.' ~ Ali, Cape Town		Photo: Dunikowski / flickr

My girlfriend taught me this technique for staying intimate...
Photo: Giovanni Dall'Ort/ Creative Commons		'My former girlfriend taught me this incredibly intimate technique. After making love, instead of pulling out I stayed in until I was ready to make love again, with a little help from my partner. The idea is that the woman does Kegel exercises (squeezing and releasing her pelvic muscles, which are used to stop the flow of urine) to keep his penis inside of her. She contracts her muscles to stop him from sliding out. You remain close and intimate, whispering and necking.
'Then when he is ready to get hard again, he also does Kegel exercises [similarly, flexing and releasing his pelvic muscles, as if to stop the flow of urine] to get a hard-on. After making love he stays inside her using this technique, until ready to make love again. You can keep doing this for a long time, and it’s incredibly intimate and passionate. I’ve done it until we’ve fallen asleep. Then the first one to wake up gets going again. It’s a very intimate exercise because you never release each other.' ~ Daniel, Pietermaritzburg

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